EbonBrotha
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RE:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:10/28/2008 11:57 PM)
This coming from Bishop Im surprised Bro. Damn very good stuff, very interesting.
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:05/18/2009 8:46 PM)
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:05/18/2009 9:41 PM)
Children,they are a wonderful thing that should be cherished and valued in a relationship but should only be an option when it is right.When the love is there and security is established.No one really wants to raise a child on their own.It happened all to often these days but it shouldn't be a way of life.Time are different,I know but that doesn't mean that there can't be happy homes again.Know your roles and stick too them.Work as a team and everything will work out. Single Parents are not new.Yes in discussing what should be done to have a secure home.Not all the time will it be so easy.Sometimes the co parent won't be there and you might need help with raising your child.There is nothing wrong with that.Its good to have a two parent formula to give the child structure.Just as long as you have a partner that understands your needs,then raising the child will be less of a strain and more of a joy to you with your partner. Now this, I’m not so sure about..I agree to a certain extent but sometimes you have no control over being a single parent or when a child comes. You’re correct, no one WANTS to be a single parent but sometimes you may think you are in a committed established relationship until the reality of a baby actually hits and then that other person hits the road. This was in my case..My child came through condoms(although it broke) AND birth control. Everyone wants the ideal two parent home but life is not always geared to work out the way WE think it should be. All a single parent can do is try to raise the child or children to the best of their ability and use it as a chance to instill in them that this is NOT the way to go. Take your experience and teach them the right way. Also, there are instances where a two parent home can be more damaging than a single parent one. I’ve seen it happen lots of times, where the father is constantly cheating and beating the mother in front of the kids. This is not an example you want your children to have and carry with them to adulthood.. that’s why there are so many fucked up people in the world. In that case, I would say that its better to raise your child on your own than to keep their innocent developing selves in that kind of environment just for the sake of saying they have a daddy or a mommy in the house.
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:05/18/2009 10:04 PM)
No, I don’t think it’s a fairy tale at all.. I think it would be wonderful to do it like our parents and grandparents do it. I wish we could all get back to that. Frankly, I don’t know what happened to moral values and commitment. I don’t know when and how it vanished. But I think it’s definitely possible to have. Nowadays, you just have to work extra hard. I still believe that a “true” family can exist. Even in blended families.. Hell, they did it on the Brady Bunch so why not in real life? lol
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:05/19/2009 12:01 AM)
There are a lot of factors in a relationship that can go south. but I think it's even worse when you have kids. They really do feel it when both the parents are separated and not getting along. It sucks....but there is always someone for you even your 60 years old and single and still hittin up all the hot spots.
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Reply To Smooth%5FBossinova
(Date Posted:07/09/2010 11:13 PM)
Reply to Smooth_Bossinova (07/03/2010 4:13 AM)
ahhhhhh...... I can tell you all about this one.....
the more you do for that person, the more the value of APPRECIATION slowly fades and starts to turn into EXPECTATION....... and before you know it, they won't say THANK YOU anymore..... cuz they expect you to do it becuz "you're a man, you suppose to do this.... suppose to do that...." Ok I can agree with you on that cause no matter how much you try,its unavoidable.You get use to things and then just expect it.As soon as the person stops doing the norm its a problem but here is the thing.If your going to do something for someone,if could be a mate or a friend.Know that you should only do it if you don't mind doing it and can see yourself always doing it.
Like if you cook for breakfast for your mate,they will get use to it if you always do it.It becomes expected.To avoid that,do it on occasions.Or switch it up.Most things go haywire cause the guy is doing extra to impress the girl when he really knows that's not his norm.Then its now an obligation.
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MizzCarrie
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RE:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:07/10/2010 12:10 AM)
Think I agree with you on pretty much all of this one.... but I will comment on it at another time you making me think too hard at 2 am lol
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:11/06/2010 11:34 AM)
Ok I can agree with you on that cause no matter how much you try,its unavoidable.You get use to things and then just expect it.As soon as the person stops doing the norm its a problem but here is the thing.If your going to do something for someone,if could be a mate or a friend.Know that you should only do it if you don't mind doing it and can see yourself always doing it.
Like if you cook for breakfast for your mate,they will get use to it if you always do it.It becomes expected.To avoid that,do it on occasions.Or switch it up.Most things go haywire cause the guy is doing extra to impress the girl when he really knows that's not his norm.Then its now an obligation.
ok i think i agree with you dre on that but not all the way . i agree that if you do something for someone over time over and over yeah they mite get use to it . but i think if it comes to where it's begaing to be all the time and the person your with dont Apperciat it any more then you need to say something do you dont lose that . and men arent the only one that like to impress women do it to. and do to much and end up in a relationship they feel they can't live .
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Angel_Lips
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RE:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:11/07/2010 12:32 AM)
DRE,I HAVE TO SAY THAT THE FIRST SEVEN LINES THAT YOU STATED REALLY CAUGHT MY EYE AND ACTUALLY MADE ME TEAR UP.iT REMINDED ME SO MUCH OF MY 25 YEAR MARRIAGE AND MY CURRENT RELATIONSHIP.I guess i really dont feel appreciated like i should be.and i guess all this time i was trying to put into words how and why i left that 25 year marriage when people would ask me.But in reading this and what you had to say you really broke ita ll down in how i was feeling at the time i chose to leave and walk away from it all.I then had 7 children and the youngest was about to be 18 so there was no small chilren affected from the divorce.I do have to say that we had remained friends and we had a easy divorce,i did the divorce myself with all the forms and we agreed to everything.Im sure whta helped that wa i gave him the house cars and the trucks as well as the family buisness we had and i agreed to pay off all of his student loans for him.i couls have also asked for alimony but i chose not to and i let him keep the retirement fund as well.i guess i chose to stay only till my children reached the age that they were so that they wouldnt be affected that much,but i learned that no matter what the age of the children,THEY ARE ALWAYS AFFECTED!!! I THINK THEY HATED ME IN THERE OWN WAY FOR A WHILE FOR LEAVING THERE DAD.
THANK YOU FOR THIS TOPIC SWEETIE,IT REALLY MADE ME THINK!! MUAH!!!!
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:11/07/2010 12:40 AM)
DRE,I HAVE TO SAY THAT THE FIRST SEVEN LINES THAT YOU STATED REALLY
CAUGHT MY EYE AND ACTUALLY MADE ME TEAR UP.iT REMINDED ME SO MUCH OF MY
25 YEAR MARRIAGE AND MY CURRENT RELATIONSHIP.I guess i really dont feel
appreciated like i should be.and i guess all this time i was trying to
put into words how and why i left that 25 year marriage when people
would ask me.But in reading this and what you had to say you really
broke ita ll down in how i was feeling at the time i chose to leave and
walk away from it all.I then had 7 children and the youngest was about
to be 18 so there was no small chilren affected from the divorce.I do
have to say that we had remained friends and we had a easy divorce,i did
the divorce myself with all the forms and we agreed to everything.Im
sure whta helped that wa i gave him the house cars and the trucks
as well as the family buisness we had and i agreed to pay off all of
his student loans for him.i couls have also asked for alimony but i
chose not to and i let him keep the retirement fund as well.i guess i
chose to stay only till my children reached the age that they were so
that they wouldnt be affected that much,but i learned that no matter
what the age of the children,THEY ARE ALWAYS AFFECTED!!! I THINK THEY
HATED ME IN THERE OWN WAY FOR A WHILE FOR LEAVING THERE DAD.
THANK YOU FOR THIS TOPIC SWEETIE,IT REALLY MADE ME THINK!! MUAH!!!!
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:12/28/2010 10:07 PM)
 FROM MY EXPERIENCE I LEARN NOT TO STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP YOUR NOT HAPPY BEING IN REGARDLESS IF THERE IS A CHILD OR NOT...I TRULY THOUGHT IT WAS A MUST TO STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE CHILD FATHER SO HE OR SHE WILL HAVE BOTH PARENTS AROUND BUT NOT IN MY BOOK... IF I WOULDV'E TRIED DAT I PROBABLY WOULD BE DEAD BY NOW BCUZ OF MY SON FATHER WAS A VERY ABUSIVE MAN AND I JUS FELT THAT I HAD TO STAY THERE AND DEAL WITH IT FOR MY SON SAKE AND SO HE WON'T GROW UP W/O A FATHER... WELL HELL HE 14YRS OLD NOW AND I DID A DAM GUD JOB RAISING HIM ON MY OWN... SO MY POINT IS YEAH TRUE ENOUGH IF U DO HAVE DAT MATURE PERSON IN UR LIFE WHERE THE BOTH OF U GO UR SEPERATE WAYS BUT STILL HAVE THE COMMON SENSE TO STILL BE IN THE PRESENT OF THAT CHILD TO MAKE HIM FEEL HE STILL DO HAVE MOMMY AND DADDY AROUND THEN THINGS WILL BE FINE... I'M A SINGLE MOM OF 3 AND I HAVE DONE A REAL GOOD JOB RAISING MY KIDS ON MY OWN TRUE ENOUGH MY YOUNGEST 2 KIDS DAD IS A VERY GOOD DAD AND HE TAKE CARE OF THEM, BUT LIKE I MENTION EARLIER U GOT TO LOVE URSELF IN ORDER FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO LOVE U TOO....U DON'T HAVE TO TAKE THE VERBAL OR PHYSICAL ABUSE TO STICK AROUND TO RAISE A CHILD....HAVE A STRONG MIND AND A STRONG HEART AND BECOME VERY INDEPENDENT U WILL MAKE IT ON UR OWN... (Message edited by MZJUSRITE On 12/28/2010 10:21 PM)
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:12/01/2011 3:02 PM)
Purely the truth
Respect apprecation communication n support perfect ingredients
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SWEETASHUNNI
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Reply To AdonisBishop
(Date Posted:01/15/2012 12:05 AM)
Reply to AdonisBishop(10/28/2008 2:49 AM) In evey relationship there are certain elements to make it
work.Appreciation is one of them.Yes you can do the world for your
partner but if they don't value what you R for them then it becomes an
issue and eventually a breakdown in the relationship will occur.
Everyone wants to be valued in a relationship and no one wants to
be taken for granted.If feeling and emotions shift,itd best to let your
partner know where you stand and how that issue can be resolved if it
can be fixed.
On to the Ex's.It mainly relationship,their might be that dreaded
person call the ex.When kids are involved,you will have to deal with
them one way or another.If you can come to an agreement with your
partner then it becomes a seamless process.And then its just business
unless you become friends and they are no hard feelings or animosity
But when there is no kid involved,then the Ex can become a huge
issue.Some people remain friends with their ex and some hate them with
a passion.But when moving forward into a new relationship,then it will
always be an issue to your new love interest.For the sake of the new
relationship,its best to cut down any if not all interaction with your
ex.Once in a blue is o.k or special occasions like a call on your
birthday but in no way any interaction should be involved.Just not the
best way to move forward in a new relationship.
Children,they are a wonderful thing that should be cherished and
valued in a relationship but should only be an option when it is
right.When the love is there and security is established.No one really
wants to raise a child on their own.It happened all to often these days
but it shouldn't be a way of life.Time are different,I know but that
doesn't mean that there can't be happy homes again.Know your roles and
stick too them.Work as a team and everything will work out.
Single Parents are not new.Yes in discussing what should be done to
have a secure home.Not all the time will it be so easy.Sometimes the co
parent won't be there and you might need help with raising your
child.There is nothing wrong with that.Its good to have a two parent
formula to give the child structure.Just as long as you have a partner
that understands your needs,then raising the child will be less of a
strain and more of a joy to you with your partner. . VERY WELL SAID .... I MUST SAY WHEN YOU LEAVE A RELATIONSHIP AND CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED ... TRY YOUR BEST TO MAINTAIN A CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH THE OTHER PARENT FOR THE CHILD . EVEN THOUGH YOU MAY DESPISE THEM ... YOU DO NOT WANT THAT NEGATIVE INFLUENCE ON THE CHILD OR CHILDREN.
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:04/19/2012 1:27 PM)
Well I agree with something but some I do not. I feel like in a relationship you have to have trust in your mate and that is the most important. If I trust your your baby mama or exs would not make me question your love and respect for me and our relationship. I would not care if my new man was still friends with his exs because I am not jealous nor do i feel threatened by them. If he cheat that's on him eventually it will all come to light becuse the first thing the exs do when they get mad is tell on him....lmao
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Reply To DaInfamous%5FTbaby
(Date Posted:05/15/2012 4:37 AM)
Reply to DaInfamous_Tbaby(04/19/2012 1:27 PM) Well I agree with something but some I do not. I feel like in a relationship you have to have trust in your .mate and that is the most important. If I trust your your baby mama or exs would not make me question your love and respect for me and our relationship. I would not care if my new man was still friends with his exs because I am not jealous nor do i feel threatened by them. If he cheat that's on him eventually it will all come to light becuse the first thing the exs do when they get mad .is tell on him....lmao POWERFUL STUFF
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:02/02/2013 2:00 AM)
Str8 2 the point...I agree
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:02/03/2013 6:44 AM)
so true
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Re:Real Talk Volume 4
(Date Posted:03/21/2013 11:42 AM)
Very true and it can be a very big problem
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