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RE:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:10/29/2008 12:41 AM)
So true, So true Insecurity not thinking he's faithful because everything seem to good to be true.
Instead of relaxing with that certain one trying to get to know them for who they are. Well I can be like a female when searching for that one. I dont go up to females, but use eye gestures and face expressions and expect them to come to me. I guess its a shy thing. Always been a little bit shy growing up. Ive tryed talking, but they seem me as a pimp or player. Now its like I got to see how bad they want me. So I sit back and let them come to me. I got to do it different then other guys, when I'm looking for females. -Do The Unexpected-
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Re:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:11/13/2008 2:32 AM)
First moves are communication, eye glances, an some head movement. Personally, Im not bout to fall all over you. If we connect thats a good thing. And I dont think anybody has gotten much from a "hey shorty".....Just b yourself no matter what that is...
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Re:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:12/01/2008 1:23 AM)
You made some very good points Dre. I think women should let men know when they are interested but not make the first move. I guess I am just old fashioned like that. LOL The Bible says," A man who finds a wife finds a good thing". It doesn't say anything about a woman finding anything. Men are naturally the "hunters"
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Reply To AdonisBishop
(Date Posted:05/18/2009 10:08 AM)
N1) ITS HARD FOR ME TO MAKE THE 1ST MOVE BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE IT PUTS ME IN A VUNERABLE STATE AND WHEN I FEEL VUNERABLE I FEEL VERY UNCOMFORTABLE. IT ALMOST FEELS LIKE FEELING NAKED IN A CROWD OF PEOPLE FULLY CLOTHED.
N2)IF IM UNDERSTANDING WHAT YOU YOU ARE SAYING FOR ME ITS LIKE THIS.... COMING TO ME LIKE HEY SHORTY, YO LIL MOMMA,ALL THAT WHISLITING AND YELLING OUT TO ME IS A COMPLETE TURN OFF. IM NOT A DOG SO DONT WHISTLE, IM NOT DEF SO DONT YELL OUT AT ME, IM NOT MUTE SO IF YOU WANT TO SPARK A GOOD CONVO WITH ME DONT SAY NOTHING STUPID OR I WILL SUDDENLY BECOME MUTE FOLLOWING DEAFNESS. I DEMAND RESPECT UP FRONT BECAUSE IM GOING TO GIVE IT FROM THE START.
MY MOTTO IS "I ONLY KNOW WHAT YOU TELL ME" IF YOU TELL ME YOU ARE GOING HERE OR THERE OR IM TALKING TO THIS PERSON ON THE PHONE THATS WHAT IM IM GOING TO BELIEVE. IF YOU GIVE ME REASON TO THINK OTHERWISE, THAT WHEN THE WHEELS IN MY HEAD START TO TURN BUT IM A FIRM BELIEVER IN KARMA AND WHATS IN THE DARK WILL COME TO LIGHT. I HONESTLY DONT HAVE TIME TO BE ARUGUING, QUESTIONING, OR GOING UNDERCOVER AND HIDING IN BUSHES AND SHIT SO I CAN FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING. HOWEVER IF AN ISSUE NEEDS TO SURFACE. I BET YOU BOTTOM DOLLAR IT WILL.
Reply to AdonisBishop (10/28/2008 02:33 AM)
I had alot on my mind lately.Just didn't know where to start.So I decided to make it small points.
If a girl is feeling a guy,why is it so hard for ya to make the first move.
How often has guys really got a meaning full relationship form just saying "hey shorty.whats good".More like a fake number.
Insecurity kills most relationships.If you got to go through your mates stuff and question there every move,you don't need to be with them.
Most people let the one for them past them by without even knowing it.Be right there in their face.Best friends even.They give that quick answer "That would ruin our friendship".If you let it,it will.
Rejection is painful but women avoid that shit with a passion.That's why they don't make the first move.They don't want to fall flat on their face.They rather watch men do it.
Breaking up,not the easiest thing to go through.Yeah it hurts but its sometimes unavoidable.People grow apart.There are many reasons why things just don't work out.Its even happens in marriages.More often than you think.Just learn from your mistakes and move on.
Relationships are one of the most hardest things to maintain and go through in life.But can be the most beautiful thing in the world.Hell thats how we all got here.Its a learning experience.There is always room to learn more in life.
Old Blog I wrote earlier this year after coming out of a 3 year relationship.Some people might know it if they know me from 1up.com
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RE:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:05/18/2009 10:36 AM)
N4) IM KIND OF GOING THROUGH A SENIERIO LIKE THIS NOW. WE DECIDED TO REMAIN FRIENDS AND STEP BACK FROM THE WHOLE RELATIONSHIP AND INTAMACY THING. DO I BELIEVE WAS IT THE BEST THING FOR US? YES AND NO. I KNOW HE CARRIES THE MAJORITY OF THE QUALITIES IM LOOKING FOR BUT I DONT KNOW IF I COULD DEAL WITH HIS COCKY ATTITUDE. HE CAN BE REALLY SELF CENTERD A LOT. HE TOLD ME I HAVE EVERYTHING HE WANTS IN A WOMAN AND I WOULD BE A GOOD GIRLFRIEND FOR HIM BUT IM NOT WHAT HES USE TO. WITH ALL THIS BEING SAID I HAVE BACKED UP FROM HIM TO SHAKE OFF INTENSE FEELINGS AND TO RESERVE OUR FRIENDSHIP BUT IN NO MANY WAYS IF FEEL LIKE OUR FRIENDSHIP IS DECLINING.
N5) HONESTLY DRE, WHEN IT COMES TO REJECTION I SPEAK FOR MYSELF WHEN I SAY YOU YOU ARE ABSOULTULY RIGHT. I WILL SHOW A MAN MORE THAN I WILL TELL HIM HOW I FEEL BUT AS FAR AS SITTING HIM DOWN AND TELLING HIM...I RATHER FOR HIM TO TELL ME FIRST. I HAVE A ISSUE WHEN IT COMES TO THIS.
N6) WHEN ITS OVER ITS OVER ALL WE CAN DO IS MOVE ON AND LEARN FROM IT MARIAH CAREY STATED ON ONE OF HER SONGS " WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN SOMEONE YOU ARE SO DEVOTED TO SUDDENLY JUST STOPS LOVING YOU? IT SEEMS THEY HAVENT GOT A CLUE OF THE PAIN THAT REJECTION HAS JUST PUT YOU THROUGH. DO YOU CLING TO YOUR PRIDE ANS SING I WILL SURVIVE? DO YOU LASH OUT AND SAY HOW DARE YOU LEAVE THIS WAY? OR DO YOU HOLD ON IN VAIN AS THEY JUST SLIP AWAY?" WHAT CAN WE DO BUT MOVE ON TIME IS GOING FULL SPEED AHEAD REGARDLESS.
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peopleschamp
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Re:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:05/19/2009 12:32 PM)
Dre you are 100% right why if a female likes a male why not tell him she do. I found that to happen more often in Newyork city, maybe it is because this is the city and female are always being aproach by guys, so females are so used to it. Back home in Central America females are more open to letting a guy know her true feelings, this is just my opinion nothing personal. In Nyc often I will make the first move and later on when i get 2 know the female better they will tell me stuff like "I always like you or "I always been checking you out" and i will be like WHY YOU NEVER TOLD ME and she would say I dont know, thats so so boring. The whole bottom line of the story is if you like a guy for whatever reason let him know specially if you are single you never know he might like you do stop waiting for the eyes contact thing that so played out keep it real and just LET HIM KNOW.
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Reply To EbonBrotha
(Date Posted:06/17/2010 12:46 PM)
Reply to EbonBrotha (10/29/2008 12:41 AM)
So true, So true Insecurity not thinking he's faithful because everything seem to good to be true.
Instead of relaxing with that certain one trying to get to know them for who they are. Well I can be like a female when searching for that one. I dont go up to females, but use eye gestures and face expressions and expect them to come to me. I guess its a shy thing. Always been a little bit shy growing up. Ive tryed talking, but they seem me as a pimp or player. Now its like I got to see how bad they want me. So I sit back and let them come to me. I got to do it different then other guys, when I'm looking for females. -Do The Unexpected- Looking back on this where I left off with more experince I believe it could be various reasons. But the paragraph for me still remains the same.
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RE:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:07/09/2010 11:51 PM)
If a girl is feeling a guy its hard for her to make the first move cuz men are very complicated creatures and even tho they make act like they are interested it seems the only thing they really interested in is a nut.
Guys seem to forget women like to be smooth talked not talked to like a jump off.
Insecurity kills period! Relationships, self esteem, people in general. Insecurities cause not only emotional but often physical pain.
In my opinion every relationship should start as a friendship. Even if it doesnt work out in the end, you at one time made something beautiful even more beautiful even if only for a brief moment.
Rejection is painful especially for women with low self esteem. Many women do everything possible to avoid rejection at all costs, even if it means being alone and miserable.
Breaking up,is hard to do, especially when only one side of the relationship lost feelings. But every relationship is a learning experience and we need to take our lessons and move on.
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Re:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:12/17/2010 7:07 PM)
I FEAR REJECTION THAT IS SIMPLY WHY I DON'T MAKE THE INTIAL FIRST MOVE BUT IF I KNOW IT IS MUTUAL THEN IT IS EASIER FOR ME TO TAKE IT FROM THAT POINT....
I DON'T LACK CONFIDENCE BUT IN MY SITUATION IT HAS ALOT TO DO WITH HOW I WAS RAISED... I WAS TAUGHT TO STAND BACK AND PATIENTLY WAIT FOR THINGS AND IF IT IS MEANT TO BE THEN IT WILL BE BUT NOW THAT I AM OLDER I AM MORE BLUNT AND OPEN AND WILL FIGHT FOR WHAT I WANT ......
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RE:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:01/10/2011 9:11 PM)
YES REJECTION DOES SUCK.....AND THATS EXACTLY WHY SOME WOMEN DONT MAKE THE FIRST MOVE...I DONT LIKE REJECTION, BUT IF I KNOW A GUY IS FEELING ME, THEN I AM GOING TO STEP UP...BUT I HAVE TO KNOW HE IS FEELING ME......
I THINK WHEN IT COMES TO FRIENDSHIPS, IF A WOMEN BONDS WITH A MAN WITHOUT SEX, SHE DONT WANT TO RUIN THAT....CUZ YES IT WILL RUIN IT...WHAT IF YALL SLEEP TOGETHER AND ITS HORRIBLE? THEN U WOULDNT KNOW WHAT TO SAY TP THE OTHER ONE....LIKE IT OR NOT, SEX CHANGES RELATIONSHIPS DRAMACTICALLY
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Reply To AdonisBishop
(Date Posted:02/27/2011 1:44 PM)
I think that when it comes to rejection, Dre you are absolutely right. No one wants to be rejected...but you take the good with the bad...I was in the position not long ago...was feeling this guy and let him know that....but I did take measures to protect my feelings before approaching him just in case it was unfavorable....it was all good.....We have to go after what we want as ladies...not throw ourselves on guys but just show a little interest and I see nothing wrong with verbalizing that interest. In some cases he's just as nervous about approaching you as you are of approaching him.
Reply to AdonisBishop (10/28/2008 2:33 AM)
I had alot on my mind lately.Just didn't know where to start.So I decided to make it small points.
If a girl is feeling a guy,why is it so hard for ya to make the first move.
How often has guys really got a meaning full relationship form just saying "hey shorty.whats good".More like a fake number.
Insecurity kills most relationships.If you got to go through your mates
stuff and question there every move,you don't need to be with them.
Most people let the one for them past them by without even knowing
it.Be right there in their face.Best friends even.They give that quick
answer "That would ruin our friendship".If you let it,it will.
Rejection is painful but women avoid that shit with a passion.That's
why they don't make the first move.They don't want to fall flat on
their face.They rather watch men do it.
Breaking up,not the easiest thing to go through.Yeah it hurts but
its sometimes unavoidable.People grow apart.There are many reasons why
things just don't work out.Its even happens in marriages.More often
than you think.Just learn from your mistakes and move on.
Relationships are one of the most hardest things to maintain and go
through in life.But can be the most beautiful thing in the world.Hell
thats how we all got here.Its a learning experience.There is always
room to learn more in life.
Old Blog I wrote earlier this year after coming out of a 3 year
relationship.Some people might know it if they know me from 1up.com
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Re:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:12/01/2011 3:08 PM)
They say with age comes wisdom well dre you are wise beyond your words this is good stuff
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TashaTemptinU
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Re:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:12/03/2011 5:38 AM)
To much work involved im so happy now that I am no longer involved I was in the wrong relationships now I come n go as I please I have NSA sex and A nee found FRIEND WITH BENIFITS
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TashaTemptinU
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Re:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:12/03/2011 5:49 AM)
My mental n my mind have given up I've been married be4 3mths into marriage he was cheatin after 7yrsi finally realize hes been cheatin all along broke my heart but ive moved on found a good guy took another 6 to realize he wasnt for me almost 13 yrs workin on faulty relationships n im still alone and content with that
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Reply To AdonisBishop
(Date Posted:01/15/2012 12:27 AM)
[Q]Reply to AdonisBishop(10/28/2008 2:33 AM) I had alot on my mind lately.Just didn't know where to start.So I decided to make it small points.
If a girl is feeling a guy,why is it so hard for ya to make the first move.
How often has guys really got a meaning full relationship form just saying "hey shorty.whats good".More like a fake number.
Insecurity kills most relationships.If you got to go through your mates
stuff and question there every move,you don't need to be with them.
Most people let the one for them past them by without even knowing
it.Be right there in their face.Best friends even.They give that quick
answer "That would ruin our friendship".If you let it,it will.
Rejection is painful but women avoid that shit with a passion.That's
why they don't make the first move.They don't want to fall flat on
their face.They rather watch men do it.
Breaking up,not the easiest thing to go through.Yeah it hurts but
its sometimes unavoidable.People grow apart.There are many reasons why
things just don't work out.Its even happens in marriages.More often
than you think.Just learn from your mistakes and move on.
Relationships are one of the most hardest things to maintain and go
through in life.But can be the most beautiful thing in the world.Hell
thats how we all got here.Its a learning experience.There is always
room to learn more in life.
Old Blog I wrote earlier this year after coming out of a 3 year
RErelationship.Some people might know it if they know me from 1up.com[/Q REJECTION .... NO ONE REALLY HANDLES REJECTION. WELL WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS OR TRYING TO START ONE... .... SO .... THAT'S HARD AND YOU DON'T WANT TO START ANYTHING ....
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Re:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:04/19/2012 1:34 PM)
I am not insecure either I had a guy that use to go through my phone when I was sleep so I planted stuff for him to find
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RE:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:08/25/2012 5:25 PM)
If I'm interested in a guy, I'll admit it to him but then my insecurity shows as soon as I say that with my luck, he's probably in a relationship, married, or seeing someone because I've never honestly felt a man gave me a fair shot. Most insecurities I have stem from being physically challenged, wheelchair bound, and having never truly been courted, though I've dated, and even dating is hard for me, but I'm totally real about all my issues.
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Re:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:02/02/2013 2:06 AM)
I feel like im n counseling...gud shit...great points...so ppl jus need 2 hear sum1 else say it
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Re:Real Talk Volume 1
(Date Posted:02/03/2013 7:03 AM)
word how woman say thay go getters and thay fear to make the first move on a man
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